Motherhood: Navigating Change with Compassion

Becoming a mother has been one of the most profound experiences of my life. As a psychologist, I’ve spent years studying emotional resilience, identity, and self-care — but living through the transformation of motherhood brings a whole new depth to those concepts!

Motherhood is full of love, but it’s also full of change: changes in your body, your priorities, your relationships, and even your sense of self. It is perfectly normal to feel both joy and overwhelm at once!

Here are a few reflections and gentle tips that I’ve found both personally and professionally helpful:

1. Allow Yourself to Feel Everything

There’s no “right” way to feel as a new mum. Some days are full of gratitude and connection; others, you might feel anxious, depleted, or uncertain. Instead of judging those emotions, try naming and acknowledging them — this simple act of self-awareness can reduce internal pressure and increase emotional regulation.

2. Redefine Self-Care

Self-care doesn’t have to mean long baths or an hour of yoga (though those are lovely). In early motherhood, it might look like asking for help, taking five deep breaths while the baby naps, or saying “no” to extra commitments. It’s about caring for yourself in small, sustainable ways every day.

3. Stay Connected

Motherhood can feel isolating, especially when routines change. Reaching out — even with a quick text to a friend or joining a parent group — can help you feel seen and supported. Connection is protective for mental health.

4. Let Go of the Perfect Parent Myth

The idea of being a “perfect mum” sets everyone up for disappointment. Instead, focus on being a present parent — responsive, loving, and willing to repair when things go wrong. Your child doesn’t need perfection; they need presence.

5. Be Kind to Your Evolving Self

You’re not the same person you were before motherhood, and that’s okay. This new chapter is an invitation to rediscover yourself — your strengths, your values, your limits, and your capacity for love.

Motherhood can be a total whirlwind - but there is beauty in the process! By practicing self-compassion, seeking connection, and letting go of unrealistic standards, you can navigate this journey with more peace and presence.

If you’re finding the adjustment to motherhood challenging, know that you’re not alone — and support is available. For a free consultation, do not hesitate to reach out to me today. I will be happy to support you on this journey.